Five Ways Your Phone Can Help You Quit Porn

Dec 30, 2019

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Have you ever felt like your smartphone is holding you back from quitting porn?

Today we're talking about phones. I actually didn't own a smartphone until I was 21 years old! I was perfectly happy with my dumb phone. I didn't call it a dumb phone. I thought it was smart. I said, “Phone, you will do as I tell you. You are my minion. I am your master.” And my dumb phone complied.

When I got a smartphone, it didn't submit to my authority quite so easily. It became a distraction, and I would spend hours drifting around on it… ultimately triggered to sexually act out and use porn.

Some of you guys have been using smartphones since you were little kids, and they've tortured you and tormented you with sexual temptation. They've been a huge part of your problem with porn. But it doesn't have to be that way.

I've had a client who used to throw his iPad across the room and smash it every time he used it to watch porn. He smashed seven iPads before he started working with me! With my help, he learned how to use his mobile device in a wiser way: as a tool, not as a trigger. As with all technology, smartphones are not necessarily evil. They’re not necessarily good. It all depends on how you use them. Our phones can be tools that help us be free so that we can become the men we were made to be. That's what I want for you.

So today, I'm gonna show you five ways your phone can help you quit porn.

1. Stay On Track. You can use your phone to make sure you’re doing what you want to be doing. There are apps and tools to help you focus and stay productive, and when you have that direction, you don't drift as much. And the easiest way to fall into sexual temptation is to be drifting. Or as the F.A.S.T.E.R. Scale says, “Forgetting Priorities.” When you're distracted and drifting, you're at risk to watch porn. But if you use your smartphone to stay productive and stay focused like I'm gonna teach you, then you won’t be at risk.

One app you can use is “Screen Time” if you're on an iPhone. That will show you where you're spending your time, how much time you're spending, and it can help you make wiser decisions about how to use your phone.

Now I know porn blockers and screen filters and accountability software can be helpful for people, But my goal today is not just to help you avoid sin. It's to pursue the purposes that God made you for. It's to help you become “husband material,” so I want to help you stay focused.

One free app I use to say focused at work is Asana. Some people use Harvest. Another one I use with my clients is my special private coaching app, called Immersion.

Immersion does many things. One of the things it does is it sends you a text message every day asking, “How much time did you spend on your healing process today?” That could be spiritual disciplines; that could be self care. And I want to see 60 minutes a day for each guy. That lets me know he's staying on track, and his phone actually helps him do that. It helps him stay focused and productive.

 

2. Call A Friend. You used to be able to do this with dumb phones and flip phones too, but now there are some enhanced capabilities that your smartphone has. If you have the Fortify app, you can use the “S.O.S.” button to immediately alert all of your allies that you need help. If you have the rTribe app, you can use the “I'm Triggered" button.

I've used that button many times and I love how it says “I'm Triggered.” It doesn't say “I already acted out, so I'm just notifying you about it.” It says, “I need help right now. I'm triggered. I'm tempted. I'm not okay, I'm feeling weak. I'm struggling. Would you help me so that we can prevent a relapse? So that we can prevent porn episode?” That’s what your smartphone can help you do. It can streamline that process. Fortify is great, rTribe is great, but calling somebody is always the best. Don't just text a person…call the person! Video calls are even better. Meeting in person is even better. As the experts like to say, “Reach out or act out.”

 3. Join A Group. This is how your smartphone can be a lot more personal. You can use it to join a group. There are many online groups you can join via video conferencing. Pure Desire Ministries has started online groups, which is really cool. I would encourage you to be a part of one of those. But there are many online groups. You could try out Husband Material Group Coaching. If you lead an online group, comment below or let me know where your groups are, so I can point people to them. Joining a group can be a more expensive option, but it all depends. So try joining a group. You can do that with your phone.

4. Take A Course. Courses are cool, courses are fun, courses help you learn, and courses are on your phone if you know how to get them. One course you can take is the Redeemed Sexuality Digital Workbook. You can get it FREE at www.redeemedsexuality.com.

But there are paid options, too. You can take The Freedom Fight, an excellent program with tons of videos to help you heal (UPDATE: The Freedom Fight is now FREE, with donations suggested). The Freedom Fight can also send you text messages to help you track your progress every day, like my Immersion app.

There's also Journey Into The Heart Of Man. This is a deep dive into your family of origin, your wounds, your fantasies, and your brain. It’s probably the best course I've seen so far, but it’s also the most expensive. So there are great courses you can take if you're ready, to level up and take your healing to the next level.
 

5. Hire A Pro. You can hire a coach, a counselor or a therapist all on your smartphone and have that face to face connection wherever you live. You can even have my face on your smartphone screen if you hire me. Just apply for a free coaching session at www.drewboa.com. Whenever you’re ready, we can make it happen. CLICK HERE to apply.

There you go: five ways your smartphone can help you quit porn.

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